Pray. Light a candle, if safe, and pray for hope, faith and strength to keep loving and caring for each other during this time of struggle.
- Talk about how you feel. This may be difficult if you are self-isolating, but do use the telephone, internet, and social media. If you need to contact a counsellor this can be arranged by your GP, or via local agencies, or privately. Samaritans are there 24 hours a day, every day, and it’s free to call them on 116 123.
- Focus on the things that you can change, not on the things you can’t.
- Look after yourself - physically, emotionally, spiritually. Plan in things that you enjoy at regular intervals during the day – a TV programme, a phone call, a book, a favourite dish, a game.
- Look after others. Even if only in small ways, but do what you can: a smile, a kind word, writing a letter or an email.
DO NOT CARRY YOUR YEAR’S BURDEN ON ONE DAY
Have you found yourself feeling low, getting taken in by what the media say is going on - no matter what our family and friends tell us? Have you found yourself caught up in negative thoughts?
Have you recently come unstuck at a large obstacle in your path? If you immediately answered "yes", then read on.
There is an ancient proverb which rather indicates that man has been aware for a long time that there are times in our lives when the world no longer seems so colourful and interesting.
You are probably still able to keep on working, doing your daily tasks, but you take less and less part in social activities and hardly see friends.
Perhaps those low-grade miserable feelings are getting worse. You find that you can no longer keep your mind on what you are doing.
At bedtime you feel as if all the worries and problems of your day, your year, are simply going round and round and round as sleep evades you. Maybe you find you wake about 3 or 4 a.m. and then those worries begin again.
Either way, you are probably finding that you are becoming more and more exhausted and less and less motivated.
So how can you get out of this spiral? How can you get back your mental toughness and resilience? But what is mental toughness? What is mental resilience?
- a set of skills, beliefs and attitudes that enable us to change our thoughts, emotions, behaviour, and physiology
- skills that help us in the pursuit of our aims, objectives, and survival
- having the ability to cope adapt and succeed during change and adversity
- having the ability to get up from life's knocks and bounce back stronger
So how does this all work?
It comes down to five key elements
- Rational Thinking – begin thinking more about the future than the past.
- Responsibility - take opportunities to act independently and take decisions without authorization
- Adaptability – be flexible and allow yourself to cope with new situations
- Commitment - follow the course of action you decide upon
- Confidence – trust in yourself, believe in yourself, have every confidence in your ability to succeed
What are the benefits of being positive?
Positive feelings increase health, happiness and strength. Being positive helps you to look at the world in a different light.
Things seem to go your way more often … and you attract positive to you when you are being positive.
Positive people like to be around other positive people helping you to attract what you really want in your life… positive events.
Being positive helps you to see the good side of things … The glass is half full rather than half empty. All events whether favourable or not have a positive side to them and therefore are easier to deal with.
Whenever you have difficulty in thinking of positive in your life or anything at all … you now take time to list the things in your life that you are thankful for.
ist them one by one and you will find that you have much to be positive for. Rather than dwelling on what you cannot do or what you do not want, dwell on what you can do and what you do want.
Rid your mind of negative words like can’t, won’t, should-have, would have and could-have. Think only think in terms of “I can” and “I will”.
Make this your new way of thinking. When someone asks you how you are, respond “Wonderful, thank you”. (You know that if you think you are wonderful, then you are wonderful!)
Get used to using words like clever... happy… thoughtful… peaceful... loving… kind… gracious… able… independent… helpful… gracious… honest… dependable… intelligent…resilient…
You see yourself as a person who can change a negative thought into a positive thought, without hesitation. No more “misery gene” and others around you will notice this and they themselves will be more positive towards you.
Enjoy your days, your weeks, your life!
The happiness manifesto
This is a workable 10-point plan to make you feel more positive about things:
- GET PHYSICAL - take half an hour of exercise once a week and aim to increase this as the weeks go by.
- COUNT YOUR BLESSINGS - At the end of each day, reflect on one or two things you are grateful for.
- TAKE TIME TO TALK – Have an uninterrupted conversation with your partner or closest friend each week.
- PLANT SOMETHING – Even if it is a window box or pot and keep it alive!
- CUT YOUR TV VIEWING TIME DOWN
- SMILE – at yourself in the mirror every day and smile at and say hello to a stranger at least once a week.
- PHONE A FRIEND – Make contact with one friend or relation you have not spoken to for a while.
- HAVE A GOOD LAUGH – at least once a week.
- GIVE YOURSELF A TREAT – every day and take time to enjoy it.
- SPREAD SOME KINDNESS – and do a good turn for someone whenever you can.